11 Things to Consider Before Starting a Relationship

The beginning of a relationship is always so exciting. You’ve found someone who makes you happy and you want to spend all your time with them.

But don’t rush into things too quickly. There are a few things for you to consider before starting a relationship. It’s important to make sure that the person you like is worth starting a relationship with.

This blog post is all about the things to consider before starting a relationship.

1. Plans for the Future

Make sure that your plans for the future are compatible with the other person’s plans. It doesn’t mean that you have the exact same goals, it means that you can agree on important subjects like where you want to live. If your potential partner wants to live in a rural area and you want to live in a big city, it might hinder your long-term success.

It also means that you have to consider what could change in the future. If your goal is to eventually move for your career, would your potential partner come with you? These are the conversations to have before jumping into something.

2. Values

Even if you get along well and have a good time together, you need to know if your values are the same or similar. If they’re not, are you able to compromise? That’s something to figure out before starting something serious.

Even though bringing up the topic of politics, religion and other sensitive subjects can be awkward, don’t push it to the side. Before talking about these subjects, you need to decide to what extent you need to agree with your potential significant other regarding these matters.

3. Your Emotional Wellbeing

Does this person make you feel good about yourself? Because your emotional wellbeing should come first. Before starting a relationship, make sure that this person truly cares about you and is there for you. You don’t want to get into a situation where you’re seeing someone who isn’t emotionally available.

Another consideration for your emotional wellbeing is to make sure you’re ready for a relationship. Make sure you’re emotionally available and ready to start a partnership with someone.

4. How Well You Know the Other Person

Have you made the effort to really get to know the other person and have they made the effort to get to know you? It’s important to know each other well before starting a relationship because you don’t want to be surprised after you’ve already started dating.

If you feel like you haven’t gotten to know each other well, consider trying 36 Questions That Lead to Love. It’s a fun way to get to know someone on a deeper level. While we don’t believe that these questions can make you immediately fall in love, it does allow you to open in up and be yourself.

5. Your Location

Do you want to start a long-distance relationship? Consider where you both live and how that factors into your relationship. Sometimes you meet someone and they don’t live close by, but they’re such a great person.

How far are you willing to travel to see them? Starting a long-distance relationship means not seeing them as often and having to put in more effort. Consider if you want to try and if either of you would ever move to be closer to the other.

6. Compatibility

The way to find out if you two are compatible is by spending time together. This doesn’t mean you have to agree on everything. It just means that your lifestyles are compatible and that you have enough in common to do things together. Essentially, can you be both friends and in a relationship?

7. Love Languages

Do you value words of affirmation more or gifts? Or would you rather the person just make time to spend with you. Knowing your love language and your potential significant other’s love language is essential. It lets you know how you and the other person give and want to received affection. Check out our blog post on love languages here.

8. Friendships

Have you met each other’s friends yet? Getting along with each other’s friends makes both your lives much easier. You’re going to want your significant other to be around your friends and vice versa. Also, if they’re truly your friend, they’re going to be able to tell if you and your potential partner are compatible. So, if you haven’t yet, introduce them to your closest friends and see what happens.

9. Jealousy

How easily do you get jealous when seeing your potential partner being friendly with someone of the opposite sex or the same sex, depending on their sexual orientation? And how well do you handle your potential partner getting jealous of you doing the same thing?

Jealousy is something that needs to be handled right away because if one of you is jealous, it’s going to cause a lot of problems. Be open to talking about it and see if you two can figure it out.

10. Superficiality

Looks matter to us more than we’d like to admit. But how much do they matter to you? Would you feel self-conscious walking down the street with this person? Would you worry what your friends might think? Do you compare their attractiveness to your exes and your friends?

This doesn’t mean you’re a bad person, it just might mean that this could turn into an issue for you down the road. It’s true that most people want to date someone who is on their level. However, looks are subjective, so it really depends on your personal taste.

11. Egos

Egos can get in the way of a relationship. If you two are in constant competition with each other, there is going to be problems. Consider your ego and your potential partner’s ego. Do you both always have to be right? Does one of you have a fragile ego? Be able to talk about this openly. You don’t want pride to get in the way of a loving relationship.