15 Relationship Red Flags to Look Out For

Relationships can be tricky. At the beginning of a relationship, you’re in the honeymoon phase, meaning everything is new and exciting. However, this is the best time to be looking out for top relationship red flags. The reason is because you should be aware of potential problems before you get too invested and serious with your significant other.

There are a lot of telling signs that the person you’re seeing has problematic behaviors and tendencies. It can be hard to be impartial, which is way we created a list of 15 common red flags that you might encounter in your relationship. If you’re currently in a relationship and some of these red flags apply to your significant other, we strongly recommend reconsidering your relationship.

This post is all about the relationship red flags that you should be looking out for. 

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The Myth of the Friend Zone

Have you ever watched a movie or a TV show where a guy complains that he’s “in the friend zone?” How about in real life? Have you ever heard someone complain that they were put in the friend zone. We have seen it in the media and we’ve seen it in real life.

Unfortunately, this term has grown in popularity and we don’t like it. There are a lot of reasons why the friend zone is a myth, which we explain below.

This post is here to explain what the friend zone is, where the term came from and the reasons why you should stop using the term. The main reason: it’s a myth. Seriously, the friend zone as we know it isn’t real.

This blog post is all about understanding the myth of the friend zone and why it’s problematic.

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Can A Long Distance Relationship Survive?

If you watched the Naked Brothers Band on Nickelodeon like we did, you remember Nat Wolff singing “Long distance relationships will kill you,” while wearing cowboy attire. It sounds silly coming from a kid, but Nat Wolff had a point. Long distance relationships can be tricky. 

Can long distance relationships survive? It depends. There are a lot of factors that can contribute to a relationship’s success. We’re here to evaluate long distance relationships and explain why they may succeed or fail. 

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Conversations Every Couple Should Have Before Marriage

Do you love watching romantic comedies where the couple always lives happily ever after? We do too! But that’s not reality. In fact, we read through different sources from the past decade. All of the sources estimate that the divorce rate hovers between 40 and 50% in the United States.

Common cited reasons for divorce include money disagreements, infidelity or marrying too young. Another cause is getting married without being together long enough to really get to know each other. For example, the honeymoon phase in a relationship can last over a year, especially for couples who don’t see each other every day.

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10 Signs They Like You as More Than a Friend

From your first crush all the way to adulthood, it can be hard to tell whether the person you’re thinking about likes you back. Asking directly might cause problems or seem intimating, making it easier to analyze their signals before letting the person know how you feel.

While we can’t guarantee the object of your affection is in love with you, these signs make it pretty obvious that your feelings are reciprocated. Remember to try to stay objective. You can even ask a friend whether you think any of these signs describe the person in question.

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Life Lessons Learned from Our Chren Weekend 

Last weekend the two of us got to have one of our amazing friendship weekends. For us, a friendship weekend means we spend almost all of our time together going on adventures. We had the chance to do a Boston harbor cruise, hit up a rooftop bar, swim for the first time in 2022, walk along the beach and eat lots of tasty food. The picture above is from the harbor cruise.

While we spend most of our time together laughing and joking around, we tend to have some serious discussions as well. Even the first day we ever spent together we had a long and deep conversation about how we view the world. 

So, after spending all weekend together, here are the lessons that can be taken from our conversations with each other and with our other friends. We hope our readers enjoy learning from our reflections.

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Don’t Be Someone’s Spare Tire

Being someone’s spare tire is exactly what it sounds like. Why do you have a spare tire in the back of your car? You don’t always need it, but it’s always there. 

The problem with being a spare tire in dating: it’s hard to know when you are one. After pointing out to someone that he was in fact a spare tire, a light bulb went off in his head. After hearing the term out loud, he recounted how his classmate tended to push and pull him, depending on her emotional needs at the time. But he let her treat him that way because he thought if he could be that guy for her, eventually she would want to be with him. 

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Gaslighting: How to Spot this Toxic Behavior 

You voted on which relationship topic you wanted to hear about and the clear winner was gaslighting. We’ve seen this topic become even more popular recently because of Katie Thurston’s season of the Bachelorette. Katie’s fight with contestant Greg Grippo sparked debate on social media about who was in the wrong and did Greg really gaslight Katie?

In this post we’ll go over what gaslighting is, where the term came from and our tips for how to spot this toxic behavior. Keep reading to learn how to tell when someone is gaslighting you.

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Get to Know Chren

Welcome to According to Chren everyone! Since we’re new to the blogging world, we wanted all of our readers to have a chance to get to know us. Feel free to tell us more about yourselves in the comments section below!

1. We’re Besties!

The first thing to know about us is that we’ve been best friends practically since the moment we met. We met through a mutual friend and have been inseparable ever since. In fact, when we had to say bye to each other for the first time, we became super sad and spent the entire next day trying to schedule a visit ASAP.

We bonded quickly over our similar sense of humor and our desire to go on adventures. Eventually, we shared a passion for writing, psychology and creativity.

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Think You’re Dating a Narcissist? Here’s How to Tell

When you’re in a relationship, it’s important to know whether or not the person you’re with sees a future with you or uses you to fulfill their desire to be wanted.

We have all met narcissists. Maybe you’re spending time with a friend and they won’t let you say anything without them having to add a personal accomplishment to the discussion. Maybe you went on a date and by the end of it, the person couldn’t tell you a single fact about yourself, when you can write a biography on their life story. Or maybe you watched a friend obsess over a significant other, only to see the significant other bask in praise, without giving compliments in return.

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